Do you ever really want to express something to someone but you just can’t quite get it out? The former me was the queen of this.
Whenever I’ve been less-than-transparent about how I felt or thought, it was never my intention to lie. I just didn’t want to rock the boat. I didn’t trust the truth enough to tell all of it. I didn’t trust others enough to receive it. But mostly, I didn’t trust myself.
It didn’t take long to realize how messed up things get when we aren’t wholeheartedly committed to telling each other the truth. And trust me when I say that I have witnessed some ridiculous shenanigans done in the name of “being nice” that were not nice at all.
So, my friends, in an effort to fight the disfunction in the world I decided to put my big girl pants on and started saying what I really mean, asking what I really want to know, and stop hiding from the conversations that need to be had. In the words of St. Augustine above, it was time to let the lion loose.
I’m so not a professional at this, but here’s the thing I’m learning in ways so powerful, I can’t even…
Telling the truth causes far less damage than avoiding it.
Now, here’s what I’m not saying. I’m not suggesting that we blurt out everything we think and feel in ways that are cruel, or passive aggressive, or self-serving. I’m talking about trusting your gut when it tells you something isn’t right and get to the bottom of it…seeking the truth with all your heart for the benefit of others and you (and honestly, for the sake of the world).
This world needs more people who hear, see, feel and speak what is real and true. Trust me, I know how scary it is when you take the plunge and express your truest thoughts to someone. But please know, there is possibly no more powerful way to change the world than to be brave enough to speak truth.
“There is perhaps no more loving act than you can give another human being than to trust them with the truth about who you are and what you have to say.”
Trusting others with the truth and being able to hear the truth from others is the only way to break down the walls that keep us from having healthy, authentic relationships.
And if that isn’t bonus enough? The freedom that comes from saying what you need to say is nothing short of magical. Whether it is well-received or not isn’t the point. You can’t control how truth is received, and that might be the scariest part of telling the truth.
Here’s a proverb to print out and tape to your eyeballs while you’re reminding yourself to start living out the truth.
If there’s something that isn’t feeling right in your relationships, dig around in your heart and be brave enough to have the conversations that will make things right.
Let that lion loose.
Then tell me how it went!